Heart breaks are one of the major problems encountered when one is ditched by his or her partner in a relationship. Some heart breaks take weeks, with some also taking months and years to heal. But renowned counselor, Counselor Adofoli has rolled out a perfect way to easily get over a heart break.
The counselor in his recent daily message noted that, people try as much as possible to forget about their Ex, the relationship and move on with their lives but the sad part is, they end up spending more time on their Ex than they did when they were in the relationship.
They literally worship their Ex. Each time they wake up in the morning the first thing that comes to their mind is to view the Display Profile (DP) of their Ex and read their Status.
He however stated that, when a relationship is over, the best way to heal, get over your Ex is to stop spending your time on them.
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HOW TO EASILY GET OVER A BROKEN HEART
After a broken relationship, people try as much as possible to forget about their Ex, the relationship and move on with their lives but the sad part is, they end up spending more time on their Ex than they did when they were in the relationship. They literally worship their Ex. Each time they wake up in the morning the first thing that comes to their mind is to view the Display Profile (DP) of their Ex and read their Status.
Wanting to know how happy they are without them, what is going on in their lives, who are they with now. Are their new lovers prettier or more handsome than them. What does the new lover have that they don’t have?
The question is, how can you move on when you spend all your time on what you want to let go? When all your attention and focus is on it? Your Ex is not God but you prefer checking on their DP than praying to God who gave you the opportunity to see a new day, to thank HIM. To such a person, by the way they do things, their Ex is more important to them than the God who created them.
How can you let go such a person when you have made them the most important person in your life? We make time for what is most important to us. We prioritize what matters to us the more. We dedicate most of our time to that which matters the most. That is why when some people are in love, they can lie to their parents just to see the supposed lover.
You could leave work early or put your work which pays you on hold and then spend the allocated time for work on your lover, either by talking or chatting with them. We come out with reasons to be with them. We allocate the greater part of our time to them. We don’t mind putting others on hold just to see or attend to our lover.
No amount of time spent with them is enough when we are in love. The same way when we fall out of love with them, we don’t want to be seen with them or spend time with them. We don’t visit them any longer or answer their phone calls. They become less of a priority.
The first thing to show you that your lover has fallen out of love with you is how they spend time with you. They don’t want to spend their time talking to you. They don’t pick your calls, and when you finally get to them, they give you excuses and promise to get back to you but don’t honour such promises. They don’t want to visit you again, although they might not have told you it’s over.
After a break up, sometimes people wonder how fast their Ex moved on, how they found happiness elsewhere. Well the secret is, they just shifted their time, attention onto something else. The fact that they are not calling you, talking to you, making excuses that they are busy does not mean they don’t talk to someone else.
When a relationship is over, the best way to heal, get over your Ex is to stop spending your time on them. Time is priceless, time lost cannot be gotten back. Giving someone your time is like giving them your life. The more you spend your time checking on your Ex who is happy with someone else, the more you get yourself hurt.
Don’t give people more than they deserve, when you do, you get hurt. Give them as much as they deserve or give you. If the relationship is over, they are not calling; they are telling you they don’t want you. Stop calling and spending your time on them.
It is a perfect time to get a new hobby, focus on yourself, your health and lifestyle. Do something that adds colour to your life beside your Ex. Focus on yourself and soon you won’t remember what you shared.
The truth is, all failed relationships hurt one way or the other but leaving someone who doesn’t want you is never a loss. It’s a gain, an opportunity to prepare yourself for the right person. If you work on yourself, your Next will be better than your Ex. Your smiles will be more beautiful.
In conclusion, ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ – Mark 12:31a (MSG).
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