Ghanaian counselor, Counselor Frank Adofoli has urged men who are married to be loving husbands.
According to him, that the only way these men can get their wives to be submissive to them. He made this known in a post he has titled, WIVES WANT TO SUBMIT TO LOVING HUSBANDS.
The post he made reads;
“One of the issues in marriages which some couples couldn’t handle but ended up in divorce is the issue of a wife submitting to the husband. Some men want their wives to be their slaves and no matter how difficult it might seem or sound, believe me, lots of wives are willing to become “slaves” to a husband who loves them. But it looks like it’s difficult to find a husband who will love them against all odds. Many find a husband but the love is missing.
It is very difficult, almost impossible, for a wife to submit to a husband who doesn’t love her, it almost looks like letting her guard down to be abused or taken advantage of. It’s like becoming vulnerable to a man who cannot protect her.
As Christians, we are God’s slaves because he bought us with the price of His son’s life, yet He doesn’t see or treat us as slaves but as co heirs, a royal priesthood because He is love and He loves us.
“The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we m ay also share in his glory” – Romans 8:15-17 (NIV).
Mr. Husband if you believe the price you paid for your wife as a bride price makes her your slave, then if you love her, you won’t see her as a slave, you won’t treat her as a slave, you will treat her as your co equal, equal partner just as God treats us as co heirs with His Son.
Imagine a slave treated as a queen, she is not only happy but remains loyal to her king, she submits to her king’s authority willingly, puts his interest first and works towards his wellbeing.
A husband who loves his wife won’t order her around, he instead makes requests. “Darling can you cook my favorite food for me”, “Sweetheart, can you make time to iron my shirt for me, I am getting late for work?”, She will be more than willing to do it.
If you are a married man, I don’t know what you went through to get your wife and how she is treating you now, but if you can treat your wife with love, a love that is unconditional, she will submit to your authority. She will fulfill your requests and do as you want her to without a fight.
A wife shows respect to a loving husband because he puts her first, she recognizes him as her head and leader who listens to her, protects her and is always there for her.
A wife tends to show great disrespect to a husband who doesn’t love her, always puts her last in everything, orders her around, shouts on her and has no ears for her, leaves her or exposes her to danger, puts fear in her, won’t protect her from the public, abuses her physically and emotionally.
When you keep your wife happy, you also keep the whole family or home happy. Her smiles brighten the house, she will always treat her husband like a king because he has made her his queen.
In conclusion, ‘Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” – Ephesians 5:25 (NIV).”
Source: ghgossip.com
