Renowned Ghanaian counselor, Counselor Adofoli has stated in his recent social media post that love goes beyond having intercourse with a particular person.
He shared this message on his Facebook page disclosing that there are lots of things we do which we think or believe makes us lovers.
He added that one of such things is sex or what some call lovemaking stating that there are guys who will tell a lady the only way to show we are lovers is when we make love or have sex.
His full message reads;
“THINGS THAT MAKE US LOVERS
Is the title for Today’s Motivational Message
Written by Counselor Adofoli
There are lots of things we do which we think or believe makes us lovers. One of such things is sex or what some call love making. There are guys will who tell a lady the only way to show we are lovers is when we make love or have sex. Some women also complain their husbands or men don’t have sex with them or are not willing to make love to them because the man does not love them.
Love goes beyond who we have sex with. We don’t become lovers because we have sex or make love with someone, or else some people wouldn’t have ended up as single parents today. They only got to find out their partner didn’t love them after having sex or making love with them. This should tell you love is not something we make.
If you don’t have love, having sex with someone won’t produce love. Love is something one should have. It’s only then that you can love someone, for you cannot give what you don’t have. Therefore, before you have sex with him or her in the name of love, make sure such a person has love in their hearts.
The scripture says God is love, we can only have love when we know God and not when we pretend to know God or pretend to have a relationship with God. “But if a person isn’t loving and kind, it shows that he doesn’t know God—for God is love” – 1 John 4:8 (TLB).
If your partner knows God and has a relationship with Him, he or she will bear the fruit of love. Before you conclude they love you, kindly find out if he or she is patient, find out if he or she is kind, find out if he or she is selfless, find out if he or she is truthful, find out if he or she does not keep a record of the wrongs done them.
Another thing that makes you and your partner lovers is Friendship. People think friendship is about the good times, the happy memories shared, the merry making or parties held, the laughter shared. But the truth is, true friends are seen in bad times. The scripture is right when it says “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need” – Proverbs 17:17 (NLT).
Your partner is not your lover because of the laughs you guys had but rather the tears you saved. Your lover cannot stand to see you get hurt, he or she tries their best not to hurt you in any way. A partner whose actions or words put you through hurt or who enjoys to see you get hurt, does not love you.
Your partner always singing “I love you” every minute does not prove he or she loves you. Love is not what you say to people but what you do for them. The one who loves you is not with you because of what he or she tells you but for the words he or she won’t have to say, their actions speak louder. Just as the scripture says “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” – John 15:13 (NLT).
Some people only miss their partner when they remember the things they do when they are with them. And when you hear them telling their partner, “I miss you, I can’t wait to see you”, they are always talking about what they missed doing with them. And once they come around and are done doing that, whatever “love” they had for their partner just vanishes.
The one who loves you values the relationship between the two of you. When they say “I miss you”, they miss the relationship between you two. If they are a married couple, they miss the relation between the two which is the marriage, not their food, sex or money.
In conclusion, “Your love must be real. Hate what is evil. Do only what is good” – Romans 12:9 (ERV).”
Source: ghgossip.com
