Popular Ghanaian counselor and motivational speaker, Counselor Edem Adofoli in his latest motivational messages has revealed that it very erroneous to miss your ex-partner if you are in a current relationship.
He stated that, after a break up, individual should please take enough time to work on themselves, and take time to heal. He advised that they shouldn’t just jump into a new relationship.
He made this comments in his message titled, “IT’S AN ERROR TO MISS YOUR EX”
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IT’S AN ERROR TO MISS YOUR EX
Written by Counselor Adofoli
Have you ever wondered why a guy will disrespect a lady, insult her, treat her bad and end up leaving her for another lady; but when this lady who was abandoned finds another guy, her ex misses her and in some cases, he even feels jealous and vows to either win her back or drive the new guy away. And yet he had no intention of staying. Well the ladies who go back are not smart for it’s not wise to go back to a guy who disrespected you and was disloyal to you.
Don’t tell me, that is love, for that is pure foolishness. A smart woman dines at the table where loyalty and respect is served, not where money and good sekz is served. Ladies need to date with purpose, don’t just date because you are single, don’t date just to occupy your time.
Date for the purpose of studying a life partner. Don’t date so you have someone to pass time with or one who will only use you. If you think loneliness is a sickness and the best cure is a relationship then you are wrong. Being in a relati onship will not heal you neither will being single kill you.
It is God who gives good husbands and not men for the bible says “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows” – James 1:17 (NIV).
If you will learn to have a good relationship with God, trust Him and wait on HIM, then be prepared to receive more than you asked for or dreamed of.
If you think you love this Ex so much then the best gift to give them is bye bye. If the separation pains that much, it will teach him to be a better person and not play with people who are real. He will learn to value relationships and won’t repeat the pain again.
But when you make it easy for him to return, you are equally telling him, you are not good enough to be the only woman in his life; that he can leave at any time, mess up and you will be ready to accept him back. It also means, he is free to marry anyone he comes across, for you are not good at being married to.
Never reduce your value because your boyfriend can’t pay the cost of respecting you and remaining loyal to you. If he can’t afford that, it means he is not the right person for you, so stop chasing the wrong one.
When you break up, please take enough time to work on yourself, take time to heal. Don’t just jump into a new relationship. It’s like making your next a band-aid for what the last person did. You will get more hurt.
If you take your time to work on yourself, you will realize there is no need chasing what is bad. You will not feel like you are losing someone, for the truth is, good people don’t lose people. It is rather people who lose them.
The next time your Ex calls you to say he misses you, just tell him you are sorry for his loss for you are at a funeral now, saying farewell to the feelings you had for him. Your feelings for him is dead.
In conclusion “Do not remember the things that have happened before. Do not think about the things of the past” – Isaiah 43:18 (NLV).
Source: ghgossip.com
