Popular Ghanaian counsellor, Counsellor Adofoli in a recent social media post has indicated that it is wrong for a lady to help a man to marry her.
Many people are of the view that if a lady helps a man towards their marriage ceremony, the man will eventually mistreat the lady because the lady in someway forced herself on the man. Due to this, many ladies hold the view that they will never help a man to marry them.
Counsellor Adofoli also holds the same view as he has urged ladies to never to help the man they love to marry them saying there is everything nothing wrong with that.
He made this known in a recent social media post. In his post he wrote;
“There is nothing wrong helping people you love but there is everything wrong helping a man to marry you, it means he doesn’t have what it takes to marry you. After the marriage, do you expect him to be a full man or half man? Do you expect him to provide, since you are teaching him it is fine not to provide because you can do that?
Any woman who wants to end up together with the man she loves has to show him how to get her, but not to cheapen herself for him without letting him get her. The truth is, he might know your true value because he didn’t get you.
Instead of putting your clothes in a bag for bride price, giving him money, clothing him, etc, rather motivate and pray for him to work and earn enough to do that. If he has to go to school and learn a new skill, let him do that.
As least he will respect and value you when he is spending on you. No one wants to waste what he spends on. But it is easy to disrespect and waste what you didn’t spend on or work for.”
Source: ghgossip.com