Whereas men complain about the financial burden their partners impose on them, a man in South Africa doesn’t allow her girlfriend to pay for anything even if she wants to and this has landed him in trouble.
The lady kicked him out of her life, saying she cannot date a man who doesn’t allow her pay for the bills. Interesting huh?
“I was engaged to a man who’d never let me pay for anything. Like it got him mad when I bought things. I left him because that may sound like a dream come true for some, but it’s a nightmare. It’s not generosity, it is control.
“He started hinting that I worked too hard. I should quit and take care of his books. When I asked what my salary would be, he laughed. Said I don’t need a salary when there’s ‘our money’. No, brother… could never be me
He bought me a new phone and sim card. It would be best if we were on the same network for free minutes, he said. I saw that he just didn’t want others to have my number and also he would have access to my itemised bill.
“For some reasons, this man thought that by putting a ring on my finger he could now shape me into a mould of his own design. I saw through it all. I’m really thankful that I did or who knows how my life would be today.
“Every time I’d say no, he’d buy me things. I don’t want to grow my hair, he got expensive flat irons. I don’t like heels, he showed up with an Aldo box. . . It never stopped.
“Then he would hint that we should go to Mac. He knows a lady who can sort me out. He’d like me to wear makeup all the time. You know, the business was picking up and we had to appear a certain way. I’m a jeans and T kinda girl. He met me as such.”
How many of our Ghanaian women can do this?