Oprah Winfrey and long time lover, Stedman Graham have been dating for over 33 years. The two started dating in 1986.
The former talk show giant accepted her lover’s proposal in 1993 but did not agree to a white wedding. They are still seeing each other and said to be ” spiritualy married “.
According to the 65 year old Oprah, not going through the traditional process of walking down the aisle is the secret to their success in life and love.
In an interview, she said:
“The moment after I said yes to his proposal, I had doubts, I realized I didn’t actually want a marriage. I wanted to be asked. I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn’t want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out commitment required to make a marriage work. My life with the show was my priority, and we both knew it.”
She added that, “He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, we would not still be together.”
Winfrey believes her relationship with Graham, 68, is solid and special because of the independence that exists within their partnership.
“Our relationship works because he created an identity beyond being ‘Oprah’s man’ (he teaches Identity Leadership around the world and has written multiple books on the subject), and because we share all the values that matter (integrity being number one). And because we relish seeing the other fulfill and manifest their destiny and purpose.”
Marriage isn’t what they are looking at, Oprah at some point in her life wasn’t even looking at dating. Back then when he met her in 1986, he looked way too handsome and tall for her. She douted he’ll love her right.
“I figured he must be a player. So did all my producers. They warned me not to get involved with that Stedman guy,” she recalled. “Aside from his appearance, they knew nothing about him. But anybody that good-looking driving a vintage Mercedes merited suspicion.”
But as the days and years went by, love won, Stedman proved to be the honourable man to her. All doubts were erased. He became the perfect man for her.